My son is lactose intolerant

By DEMahle Latest Activity May 15, 2013 at 10:39 am Views 846 Replies 10


Ok, I'm new here and I don't know if this is a unique situation or not. My 4 year old son is going to be starting school in August and he has been lactose intolerant since he was a baby. His allergy is so bad that he gets bloated, has severe gas and diarrhea that last about 3 or 4 days just from a tiny piece of cheese or one swallow of milk. The only time he can eat or drink anything with lactose is if it's heated because the lactose molecules change with heat and even then he will still get the symptoms but it's not as bad. My son is the kind of kid that wants to be a big boy and wants to eats what everyone else is eating. My concern (well, really a worry) is that even though the school district implemented a food allergy form that every parent/guardian has to fill out at the beginning of the school year the national guidelines make the school lunchrooms have every child take a milk with lunch and I know my son will drink it. What is the best way,besides this form, that I can explain this to the school and make sure he doesn't get teased or alienated by the other kids because or this. He can't go through the entire school year with diarrhea and me having to go to the school daily after his lunchtime to clean him up. Thanks!

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  • Jameraz2
    Jameraz2 May 27, 2013 at 1:41 pm   

    You may want to look into him taking daily probiotics. I've had lactose intolerance pretty much all my life. I love milk and would have occassional problems when I was younger. No one knew how to help me or even what it was. But as I grew older it got worse. I've done my research and found out that antibiotics made my problem worse. Not only is it in the foods we eat, but I also used to take them for bad sinus flare ups. So now I take a PROBIOTIC caplet every day and don't quite know what I am but I think I am lactose intolerant because it causes digestive problems for me. I did some research and after watching a show on The Drs I realized that there is treatment. I looked into PROBIOTICS and looked for caplets that have Lactobacillus in it. I take a Probiotic pill daily and double up right before I eat something with milk in it. It has really helped so much. Now I understand how they work and I feel so much better. Knowledge really is power!

  • mcmanigal4
    mcmanigal4 May 27, 2013 at 9:38 am   

    As a teacher and someone with a milk allergy I understand your problem. I have a student in my class that is the same way. His mom buy soy milk boxes and juice boxes for him. The parents send his drinks on Monday and we then put them in the milk cooler in the lunch room. All the other students know that it is his milk and they don't mess with it. That way he has his milk and still gets to be just like the other kids. His parents have worked really hard with him so that he know what he can have and not have at school. He is good about asking the lunch ladies to leave off anything with milk in it. He is only a 2nd grader.

  • deedeeshirley
    deedeeshirley May 26, 2013 at 11:32 pm   

    National guidelines may say that every child has to take a milk but there are also national guidelines that say the school must keep your child safe. You need to go talk to the school about his allergies and how they plan to address that. He should be offered a juice instead of a milk everyday. And there is absolutely NO reason that he should EVER be given a milk, it is a danger to him and they cannot require him to take it. Also, you need to try to make him understand that being a "big boy" is making good decisions and milk is not a good decision for him. Good luck.

  • nipuole
    nipuole May 26, 2013 at 9:51 pm   

    i feel you should try as much as possible to go out of way to let the school or person in-charge know about your son's allergy. also try make your son understand that whatever he does either willfully or by peer pressure will end up making him sick and you not happy and unstable.

  • carolj471
    carolj471 May 26, 2013 at 2:02 pm   

    Is he allergic to just the lactose or does he also have a problem with the sodium casinate that is in milk as well? I am allergic to both. I am a 58 yr old woman who has had "childhood" allergies all my life. You say he wants to be a "big boy". I think it's very important that as we teach our children how to manage their allergies with popular foods that we do so in a way to does not make them feel different or left out. My mother was told that I would outgrow my food allergies but that is simply not true. What happens is our bodies, in an attempt to get what it thinks doesn't belong there out, other more severe symptoms such as repeated ear infections, will arise. The body gets the final say. It WILL get it out any way it can. Drs try all the time to suppress those reactions. But it's so much better for allergic bodies to not have to spring into action at all IMO. And even though your sons symptoms may not appear to be "as bad" when the milk is heated, I can tell you that he is having symptoms internally none the less. So if you keep trying to get his body to accept the cows milk, all you are doing is making his symptoms worse. Plus if he learns that YOU"RE not accepting of his body's limitation then he's going to have a poor self image of himself. In nursing school I learned in nutrition class alot about my own personal food allergies and have learned to manage them. My mother and our doctor really didn't have a clue back in those days. But we have alot of education at our fingertips now. My suggestion to you would be to stop trying to find ways to make his body accept the regular milk, heated or not. There are many wonderful soy products on the market as well as oat, almond, rice…

  • cjp028
    cjp028 May 16, 2013 at 5:03 pm   

    My son is now 12 and has had a (cow) milk allergy all his life. Consuming anything with milk causes him to throw up. For every day since kindergarten he's taken Gatorade in his lunch. He gets a calcium pill will his breakfast and a 12 oz Gatorade in his lunch. I like the soy-milk-box idea, however. I've never seen those. We tend to use more Almond Milk instead of soy in general use/cooking, but still a good alternative.

  • The Allergy Mom
    The Allergy Mom May 17, 2013 at 9:23 pm   

    We also have a nut allergy so cannot do the almond milk. We have rice milk (vanilla, plain and chocolate) which are all delicious and can be used in cooking and baking too. We also use coconut milk -it is delicious in smoothies! I made a lemon cake the other day with coconut yogurt and it was just amazing! Lots of good dairy substitutes nowadays thank heavens!

  • The Allergy Mom
    The Allergy Mom May 16, 2013 at 12:11 am   

    I have found soy milk and rice milk drink boxes that we take for travel and to restaurants. Perhaps your son would like to take those to school?

  • 1MamaBee
    1MamaBee May 15, 2013 at 12:14 pm   

    I would make sure his teacher was aware too. As more and more kids develop allergies, schools are having to adapt. I think it will get easier over time. Also, I'm sure your son will find a friend who has some sort of food allergy, so they will be able to relate :)

  • southerngalnc1
    southerngalnc1 May 15, 2013 at 10:53 am   

    I have lactose intolerant. I use soy milk. You may have to go to the school and talk to them.